The Argument of Antimonogamy
The sacred view of sex is sane, for sanctity is sanity, which is to say, it reflects reality: any deviation from that is insane, but the insanity takes any number of forms. In much the same way, there is only one way for one to stand upright, but any number of directions in which one can fall.
The Christian view is that man is made in the image of God, hence human life is sacred. The reproduction of human life is sacred, and the sexual joy in which this is done is sacred. Because it is sacred, it is not to be shared or treated lightly, but solemnly, with joy, with happiness, with delight, for sexual joy is a divine joy, a gift of the Creator and a participation in a act of creation. In the same way we do not share the sacred host of the Eucharist with passing strangers, heathens, or scornful enemies, or feed it to dogs and swine, Christians do not share their wives and daughters with the unclean world, or with the gutter.
Now, those who live in the gutter, and who love to slosh in the urine and logs of crap floating in the open sewer of the gutter, want very much to demean the sacred nature of sex. They change their stance as convenient, but do not change their goal, which is, namely, to beslime what is pure, and trivialize what is profound.
When discussing, for example, gay marriage, marriage is taken to be a rite so solemn and so important that it is decried as an injustice if sodomites are not allowed to have their alliances recognized at law and solemnized with all the rights and dignities of marriage; but when discussing fornication, marriage is taken to be so trivial and insignificant that it is not even mentioned as a consideration when deciding whether to copulate or cohabitate with a modern woman.
Sex is considered, conveniently, to be so overpowering an instinct that nothing, no law and no social convention, no virtue and no self control, can be allowed to stand in the way of this rampaging bull — but only when the bull is trampling the marriage bower. The argument that because sex is so overpowering an instinct that nothing, no temptation and no infidelity, should stand in the way of marriage is never considered.
Sex is also considered, conveniently, to be so trivial and insignificant that fornication and sexual perversion are no big deal, and anyone who speak of chastity is guilty of overreacting to what is no big deal — such an overreaction is conclusive proof of his hang ups and his neurosis. Those who are not hung up about sex are allowed and encouraged to fornicate with the abandon of crazed weasels.
Either argument might serve the purposes of the postmodern, postrational crowd, but the mere fact that they use both at once shows that their goal is to demean and destroy marriage, not to find some means better than monogamy of handling the man-female dynamic.
Sex is considered ennobling and empowering, but only when the woman is posing in the nude or dressed as a bunny. Sex is considered a trap and a snare meant to weaken the distaff sex when it leads to childrearing and housewifery. Why being the mistress of one’s own home, queen of the castle and lady of the manner, be it ever so humble, is considered demeaning slavery, whereas the empty life of the harlot, or the woman who passes from one indifferent and exploitative live in boyfriend to another, mothering bastards along the way, or killing her offspring in the womb, is considered empowerment is a paradox, or, rather, a mystery of the modern agnostic faith. By no coincidence, the freedom to be exploited and abandoned by a passing lover, or to exploit and abandon your non-spouse, coincides with the behaviors that are the most infantile, pleasing in the short term, and shortsighted.
Those three (infantile, pleasing in the short term, shortsighted) can be taken as the leitmotif or summation of the philosophy of the modern day: whatever excuses the irresponsible is lauded as a power: to act responsibly is seen as a deception of those who would steal from each playboy his rightful due of harpooning harlots in abundance, and women to enjoy the promiscuity of men.